What No One Tells You About Losing a Childhood Friend

Monday, November 23, 2020

Your best friend didn't get their title by being sub-par. We become besties with people who mean a lot to us. When we lose them, it's like losing a giant piece of ourselves.

Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a childhood friend. If you're wondering what to expect throughout the process, then we're here to help.

Read on to learn four things no one tells you about losing a childhood friend.

1. Your Friends and Family Might Not Understand

The first unexpected thing that could happen after your loss is disenfranchisement. When you lose a family member, the world expects you to grieve. When you lose your hometown friends, society isn't as understanding.

Disenfranchised grief happens when your loss gets minimized by those around you. Often, the loss of a friend isn't acknowledged by your family members. Your grief might not get validated in the same way it would had you lost a relative.

Don't let disenfranchisement make you feel like your grief's unwarranted. You've gone through something significant even if your friends and family don't understand.

2. Your Health May Suffer

One thing you may not expect is for your own physical health to decline after your loss. Studies confirm that losing a friend has significant negative impacts on your health. Here are a few things that could happen as you grieve:

  • Weakened immune system
  • Sleep issues
  • Heart problems (especially in the first 24 hours)
  • Digestive distress
  • Body aches and pains
  • Unhealthy coping mechanisms

For many, these physical symptoms subside after about six months. For others, the bereavement period can last for years.

If you think your health is taking a dive, it's important to reach out for help. This fact couldn't be more true than during this pandemic.

3. Your Grief Will Impact Your Emotions

Have you ever attempted to help a grieving friend? Loss isn't something that's easy to cope with. It's equally as difficult to try to comfort someone going through a loss.

Losing your best friend will impact your emotions. It's normal to feel confused, angry, and overwhelmed. Your sorrow is natural, and it's important to let yourself go through the grieving process.

4. You'll Come Face-to-Face With Your Own Mortality

No one honestly believes they're immortal, yet a lot of us tend to live our lives that way. When our brains process death, we often think of it as something that can't or won't happen to us anytime soon.

When you lose a friend, you're immediately face-to-face with reality. You start to think about your own mortality. This situation can cause a lot of anxiety. Take care of yourself, and know that it's normal to feel scared and vulnerable during this time.

How to Cope With Losing a Childhood Friend

Losing a childhood friend is a traumatic experience. While society might not understand, your grief could start to impact your health. It's normal to feel shocked and surprised by the sudden loss of a longtime friend.

Are you currently grieving? At Schumacher & Benner, we understand your pain. We've compiled a host of free information to help you overcome this difficult time. Keep browsing through our resources to find more answers.

At Schumacher & Benner Funeral Home and Crematory, we want to take care of you and your family in any way possible. Our services include traditional funeral services, celebration of life services, cremations, selection of memorial and headstones, and more.  

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