What Is a Eulogy and Who Gets to Write One?

Monday, May 24, 2021

Getting asked to eulogize is a big honor and a huge responsibility. Learning how to write a eulogy is not a cookie-cutter process. Everyone has their own way of eulogizing a lost loved one.

But what is a eulogy? How long should a eulogy be and who gets to write a eulogy? Get the answers to these questions right here with this handy guide about eulogies. 

What Is a Eulogy?

Eulogies have their roots in ancient Greek poetry but they were popularized by the Christian church later on in history. A eulogy is a heartfelt speech presented by someone that the deceased had a strong connection with.

This is often an immediate family member, significant other, wife, husband, or child. During a eulogy, the person reading the eulogy goes to the front of the funeral stage. They are referred to as the eulogizer. 

They read a well-thought-out and heartfelt speech written about the life of the deceased individual. It serves as a summation and final word about the deceased person's life. 

Who Gets to Write a Eulogy?

A eulogy is most often written by an immediate family member or loved one of the deceased individual. This person should have spent a lot of time with the deceased and know them better than anybody else.

Anybody can be a eulogizer from parents, to friends, to children. If you need tips on writing a eulogy for your parents, check out this guide on how to write a eulogy for a mother.

How Long Should a Eulogy Be? 

The length of your eulogy all depends on personal preference and the length of the funeral ceremony in general. A good rule of thumb is to keep your eulogy between 5 and 10 minutes long.

Recent data suggests that the average adult attention span doesn't last much longer than 5 minutes. The bereaved and grieving people at the funeral may not be able to focus for much longer than that.

Keeping your eulogy short and sweet is always a good call, but make sure to say everything that you want to say. Don't leave important details out or shorten heartfelt stories to make your eulogy more timely.

That being said, long-winded tales and pontifications may be better saved for an after-service discussion rather than a eulogy. You want your eulogy to be timely and relatable. 

It should touch everyone present at the service and leave them with an overall positive feeling, despite annunciating their feeling of loss. It can be tricky, but if you speak from the heart about a loved one you should be fine.

Speak From the Heart

When you write your eulogy you should speak from your heart. You need to ask, what is a eulogy to you? How would you want to be eulogized at your funeral and how can you do it for somebody else?

Write a heartfelt eulogy today by speaking from the heart and being true to your relationship with the deceased. Then, to help aid you in your funeral planning process contact us at your soonest convenience. 

At Schumacher & Benner Funeral Home and Crematory, we want to take care of you and your family in any way possible. Our services include traditional funeral services, celebration of life services, cremations, selection of memorial and headstones, and more. 

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