What to Write in a Sympathy Card

Monday, July 5, 2021

Are you trying to write a sympathy card and struggling to find the right words to write to try to comfort a friend? Even though writing sympathy cards can be hard, they are important to send. 

You want to let your friend know that you are here to support them and be a shoulder to cry on. However, finding the right words to write on a sympathy card can be hard. 

Here are some helpful tips on what to write in a sympathy card and things to stay away from. 

Importance of Sympathy Cards 

Sympathy cards are the third most common type of greeting card. Sending a sympathy card it shows that you put in an effort to show your friend that you are there to support them and that you are thinking of them.

It is much easier to just send a quick text. However, writing out a sympathy card shows that you took time to think of them while they are dealing with a loss. 

Make It Personal

Usually, they all have some generic sympathy card sayings written on the card already, but you'll want to add your personal touch to these cards. Adding on to these generic sympathy card sayings is a great way to add your personal spin on the card and let the other person know that you are thinking of them. 

Add on to the sympathy card saying "I am sorry for your loss" by adding something like "Sending you my thoughts and prayers, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad." You don't have to make an elaborate statement to still be meaningful and let the other person know you're sending your condolences. 

Think of a Good Memory

If you knew the person that passed away in their life, you can share a memory that you have of that person. Sometimes, when people lose someone that they love, hearing what a positive impact they had on others provides comfort to the person who is dealing with the loss of a loved one. 

Even writing something as simple as "it was a pleasure to get to know your brother growing up" will add a personal touch to your card and may provide comfort to the other person.  

Things to Avoid Writing 

When someone is dealing with a loss of a loved one, it's best to not write in a sympathy card that you know how they feel. This can come off harsh and hearing this does not bring them comfort.

They would much rather hear that you are here to listen to their problems rather than hear that you've experienced the pain of losing a loved one also.

Everyone handles grief differently and if you lost your mother, that doesn't mean that you had the same relationship that they had with their mother that they just lost. They need to know that it's okay to grieve in their own way. 

They will probably know that you mean well if you write this, but it may not provide them the comfort that they're looking for at that time. 

Know What to Write in a Sympathy Card for Your Loved One

You can't take away the pain that your friend is feeling, but letting them know that they aren't alone and have your support will be encouraging words for them to hear.

Using these tips should help you have some ideas on what to write in a sympathy card.

Watching a friend deal with the loss of a loved one and the stress of planning a funeral makes you want to ease that burden for your family when your time comes. You can ease that burden by preplanning your funeral with us.

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